Below are some of my thoughts on topics related to papaing. More to come soon.
Start with You
This almost goes without saying but it just doesn’t. You are your child’s most important role model. “Do as I say, not as I do” parenting communicates a lack of integrity and is just plain confusing for kids. As Zig Ziglar says “you don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great!”
Start thinking about your legacy as a parent and conversations that you want to have with your child in the future. For example, when Melia was several weeks old, it became clear to me that I needed to be able to look her in the eyes as a young adult and tell her that I did everything I could to make this a better place. What stories do you want to be able to tell your child when they are an adult? Live that story!
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Develop your inner storyteller
Everyone has a great story in them. It’s the “getting it out” that can be challenging. Telling your child stories and teaching them how to tell stories are two of the best things you can do for your child’s creativity, imagination and self-expression. When they are un-naturally and alarmingly stuck on something (e.g., scared or dreading), create a space and support that makes it natural for them to tell the story of their fear, and to talk about their sensations, images, feelings and thoughts.
Entertainment is really “Inner-Trainment.” Everything we experience rewires our minds. Most children’s entertainment, unfortunately, is like junk food; it may taste good but it’s making our kids sick. Recent developments in neuroscience, namely the widespread acceptance of “neuroplasticity,” indicate that everything we experience rewires our brains. Much of this screen time (and pop music) is not providing any educational benefits for their kids. In fact, much of what their children are exposed to (e.g., sexualized music videos, violent video games, product placement and other advertising, rapid scene changes) is detrimental to their child’s brain health and development.
My message is for parents is threefold:
- Pay attention to your kid’s media diet and get familiar with their favorites. For example, I read the Hunger Games and check out Melia’s Instagram account.
- Talk to your children about their media experiences
- Provide your children with nutritious children’s entertainment that supports their healthy development
The Opportunity Gain
Cultivate a lens that values inspirational adversity. Help kids see that mistakes and disappointments are opportunities to grow. Help them see that there is an Opportunity Gain (as opposed to an opportunity loss) when something doesn’t work out (e.g., an audition).